Conversations about Drugs and Alcohol with Teens
Talking to your kids about drugs and alcohol might feel awkward, but it is essential to promote healthy behaviors. Here are some tips from the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) to help you have these conversations in a nonjudgmental way.
1. Keep it Short and Frequent
Having multiple short conversations about substance use can be more effective than one big talk. By talking frequently, you build trust with your teens, making them less likely to misuse alcohol or drugs. You can have these talks anytime, whether it’s on the way to the store, at dinner, or after sports practice.
2. Set Clear Goals
When discussing alcohol and substance use with your child, make sure to express your disapproval of underage drinking and substance misuse. Let them know you care about their health and success, pay attention to their behaviors, and help them develop strategies to avoid risky behaviors. Be a reliable source of information, and if you don’t know the answer, offer to find it together.
3. Get the Facts Straight
Before talking to your child, ensure you have accurate information about alcohol and substance use. The National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA) provides expert-reviewed information on their website, covering various substance use topics. You can find answers to common questions and watch teen-friendly Q&A videos with scientists to stay informed.
4. Adapt to Change
As children grow older, their environment and relationships change, so should the way you talk to them about drugs and alcohol. Adjust the information and language you use based on their age and experiences. For parents of college-bound students, NIAAA offers guides to help them navigate this transition safely.
5. Look for Signs
If you notice any unusual changes in your child’s behavior, such as loss of interest in activities, changes in habits, or new friendships, consider talking to them about it. These signs could indicate a problem that needs to be addressed.
6. Have a Plan
Develop strategies with your child to avoid risky situations involving alcohol and substance use. Consider having a code word or phrase they can use to ask for help discreetly in uncomfortable situations. Make it clear that they can always come to you for assistance without fear of getting in trouble.
7. Listen to Your Child
Encourage an open dialogue with your child about alcohol and substance use. Take their feelings and concerns seriously, and be ready to listen to what they have to say. If they ask about your own experiences, experts recommend being honest and sharing relatable stories.
8. Support Them
If your child is struggling with drug or alcohol misuse, show them love and support. Reach out to their health provider or use resources like FindTreatment.gov for assistance. You can also contact the SAMHSA National Helpline for referrals to local treatment facilities and support groups.
By following these tips and maintaining open communication, you can have meaningful conversations with your teens about drugs and alcohol, promoting healthy decisions and behaviors. Remember, your support and guidance can make a significant difference in their lives.
